As a lesbian men who I allow to be my friends usually treat me like one of the boys or "the perfect girl" and this brings on numerous issues. Many men initiate locker room talk with me which is sexist, objectify and kinda disgusting. I usually respond with something truthful and something they don't expect like "she looks gorgeous in that outfit, her style is on point and she has the most beautiful face". I've recently cut a man out of my life (30) for making a very disgusting/disturbing remark. I never felt overly comfortable with him and he came across very emotionally undeveloped as well as his maturity being that of someone in highschool. The remark in question was referring to my ex who cheated on me. Out of the blue he tells me I should catch up with her, tie her up and degrade her. Leave her for people to use and her mother to find. This was all 10000000% serious and incredibly rapey. I uncomfortably told him I'm not comfortable with that and I think that's very disturbing only for him to reassure me and justify to me what he was saying. After that day I blocked his number and refused to speak to him. He had also made remarks about how female friends deserve to be in abusive relationships because they should know better and they had a chance with him only to pass him up. He continuously lied about a variety of things and had 0 capacity of self reflection/growth.